I went to a shiur on the concept of bashert during lunch today (one of the many perks of working for a Jewish organization- free lunch n’learns). At the beginning of the shiur, the rabbi asked what might the downsides be of believing in the concept of bashert. One man answered that there is a lot of room for human error. His example was a scenario in which a man is at a Speed Dating event, and the woman across from him just doesn’t like his shirt or tie, and so does not take him seriously.
He was wearing a chartreuse shirt.